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2nd interment question

Jason deleon — Wed, 29 Aug 2018 13:35:53 +0000

Recently my grandmother passed and the funeral and service went well. 5 years prior my father passed away and was cremated. Me and my siblings had not decided on his final location. So at the service for my grandmother we decided to lay him to rest with my grandmother. My grandfather agreed to have his name added to the headstone at his request. He went to see the headstone today and was given a bill for $1600, $1400 of which was a 2nd interment fee with $200 being charged for the engraving. There was not a 2nd service and my father’s name was not mentioned at the burial. Me and my brother placed the ashes in with my grandmother and now we are receiving this bill.

No service was provided. The cemetery did not even touch his remains and no additional space was needed in the casket. I am confused and livid that this is being added to my family’s bill. Is this normal?
I am appalled at the cost of them doing nothing.

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Anecdotes for Arrangements

Judy — Sat, 31 Mar 2018 12:52:15 +0000

My cousin and I helped my Aunt shop for an outfit for our Grandmother to be laid out in. We picked out a beautiful purple (Grandma’s favorite color) dress, and my Aunt wanted shoes to match. We found a very pretty matching pair of sandals, but my Aunt said, “The heel is too high. Grandmom can’t walk in them!” We put the shoes back and continued shopping with my Aunt until she found a pretty pair of “comfortable” shoes to match Grandmom’s dress!

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The Past surfaced at the Repast

Forums User — Tue, 06 Sep 2016 08:35:26 +0000

My husband has a large and “interesting” family. Their custom is to hold a large repast after the funeral. This normally makes for a festive event with lots of stories being passed around and memories being shared. When his father died the dynamics were a bit electric since the funeral was held in their hometown in NJ but he had lived for many years with his second wife in Alabama. Needless to say, the cultures were a bit different.

The two-day visitation was awkward enough with the current wife and her sons positioned in one part of the large funeral home parlor and the first wife (my husband’s mom) comfortably seated on the couch across the room. Since the event was in the home town where the family was widely known, the well-wishers eagerly visited with my mother in law while the wife looked on.

The real fun came at the repast though. The “old” family took up the bulk of the restaurant with my mother in law at the place of honor at the head of the table. “New” family quietly sat off to the side. Once the meal was done and the chatter started Mom reached in her Mary Poppins bag and pulled out an album of wedding photos. As it was passed around you could tell that the current wife was becoming a bit uncomfortable. I guess the sons had had enough as one silently walked over to the table, snagged the photo album and took it back to the table. I don’t believe that wedding album has ever been seen again. Good times.

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