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Out of state funeral

hboln — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 22:49:24 +0000

My assistant lost her husband on Sunday. I live in Delaware and she works remotely from Georgia. She sent details of the arrangements this afternoon. Due to Covid, I’m uncomfortable flying and cannot drive that long distance on such short notice. How do I tell her that I won’t be attending the funeral on Wednesday?

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Estranged children within funeral program

siwelent — Wed, 25 Mar 2020 16:04:13 +0000

Hello,

My father recently passed. He was married to my Mom, his present wife, for over 50 years; however, they were both previously married and had children from those marriages. How, if at all, should those children be included since the relationships have been strained for many years. I do not want to make it confusing as if my parents had more children together than they actually did.

Guidance appreciated.

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Group Thank Yous via Email

routh — Mon, 12 Aug 2019 16:24:10 +0000

I received cards/donations from different groups on my job. Is it proper etiquette to send a group “thank you” email to those listed on the card? If so, should I bcc them or add them all to the “To”? If not, is an email appropriate at all?

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Why is a friend planning

3daughters — Wed, 05 Jun 2019 10:45:47 +0000

My mother died unexpectedly and myself and sisters are planning memorial for one month after. We received text from mothers friend about celebration life service. How do we handle a friend making plans and reaching out to our mothers friends? The memorial is small but open to close friends. This lady was not on the list but her list included many that we were about to reach out to about our memorial service.

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Is it appropriate to attend only the funeral luncheon?

township — Mon, 13 May 2019 16:57:01 +0000

A resident of our company’s apartment complex has passed. Through the years many of the staff and their families grew quite fond of her. Many staff are attending the wake services but are unable to attend the actual funeral services due to open business hours. The deceased’s son has extended an invitation to the staff attend the funeral luncheon. Would it be inappropriate to attend the luncheon and not the actual funeral services?

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Note cards for extended family not expected to attend service

sheryl — Wed, 26 Dec 2018 12:22:31 +0000

My mom is planning her memorial service. My father is deceased and my mom wants us to just notify her nieces and nephews on my fathers side of her passing after the service has been done and over with as she does not hear from them and feels they should not be expected at the service. Is there a proper protocol to follow to send out note cards or just sending a prayer card with the date of death appropriate?

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Proper standing/seating for immediate family

apt0385 — Fri, 19 Oct 2018 11:17:50 +0000

My father in law passed recently. The line up of how we walked into the church and how we sat has been on my mind since. My husband said this was correct but I can’t find anything.
The line went as followed: My husband (oldest son), my mother in law, my brother in law, his wife and then me beside her.
I was under the impression that the wife sat with her husband?

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Funeral etiquette

lrcam — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 12:53:19 +0000

My ex wife and I have been divorced for 23 years recently our daughter passed. I am married to my current wife of ten years. Should she attend the funeral and where should she sit?

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Advice

mblane23 — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 23:16:38 +0000

Hello,
My father is in the last stages of his terminal illness. It has been an emotional time because my father is such a special, caring man. We all love him so much and it is so hard saying goodbye or letting him go. He recently told us he has a special request for his friends and family, in lieu of flowers at his services. We want to honor his request appropriately, but aren’t sure of the right way to do so. We’d love to have your guidance.
He has 11 grandchildren, all who have special relationships with him and adore him. His youngest grandson; however, has significant special needs, including autism and several developmental delays. My dad’s heart has always been in helping his grandson as much as possible and he dedicated so much of himself to helping his grandson receive the care he needs. It’s always been a concern for the entire family and frustrating as the resources he requires are limited and expensive. He expressed his desire to us that in lieu of flowers, it would mean so much to him if his friends and family made a donation to the continued care and therapy for his grandson. We’d like to honor his request in the manner he intended. Is it possible to set up some sort of memorial fund that his family and friends can make a donation to that is designated for his grandson and ensures the funds will go towards therapy and treatment expenses? What is the best way to do this in an appropriate manner? We appreciate your guidance very much!

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Should siblings of deceased get a thank you note?

kathrynr — Thu, 28 Dec 2017 23:50:55 +0000

Is it appropriate to send thank you notes to the siblings of deceased who have sent flowers?

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