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Headstone

greenandgray — Mon, 08 Nov 2021 12:01:56 +0000

I have a question regarding a plot. A man who golfed with me a couple times passed died in a very unexpected and tragic accident about a year ago. I didn’t know him very well, and I’ve never met his family. I didn’t learn of his passing until a few days ago. However, he really made an impression on me. I feel so terrible for never connecting with him more. He really was a great guy. I went to the cemetery
a few days ago to visit his grave, but he doesn’t have a permanent marker. Just a framed temporary sign from the funeral home. I was surprised as he had passed almost a year ago. I called the funeral home he was in care of and asked about it; they told me that no stone marker had been ordered. The cemetery states that they can remove the temporary markers after a period of 180 days. And the lady at the funeral home said sometimes the frames get chewed up by the lawn mowers. The stone memorials are very expensive – almost $1,000 for a flush stone plus a $200 fee for placement, etc. I would be honored to pledge the cost of the memorial, placement, and fees for the family. I would like to know if, and how, I could do this respectfully. I would also like to remain anonymous.

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2nd Rite of Interment, Estranged Children

yousaybeoh — Sun, 16 May 2021 18:17:07 +0000

Setup: I’m appreciative of the posts regarding the 2nd rite of interment, it has helped me understand the request I received from the surviving siblings of my deceased father and their plans to bury the ash remains of my Uncle with him. Yet after reading several posts none really fit my exact situation and that’s where I hope your guidance comes into play. I have no immediate objections to their request, however I can’t help but think of the children of my uncle whom until only recently we’re estranged.

Question: Do the children of my uncle have any say in what happens to their fathers remains when that time comes? As you can tell, the siblings of my Uncle have already started planning and to my knowledge have not considered the wishes of their niece and nephew. I’m looking to avoid any last minute conflicts and I’m just looking for some heads up on what to expect and plan appropriately.

I do plan on contacting the cemetery for their 2nd rite rules but before I reach out to the children of my uncle I want to better understand what their legal rights if any apply here.
Thank you!
E. Garcia

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Second Rite of Interment-Approvals Needed

ellenj — Wed, 07 Oct 2020 17:26:33 +0000

I am the youngest of 5 siblings and my parents are both deceased and buried next to each other in a cemetery where all of my Mom’s family (parents, grandparents, etc) are buried. One of my sisters has come forward stating she would like to be cremated upon her death and have her cremains buried with my parents. She says this is called second rite of interment and she needs all siblings to sign off and approve.

I’m a bit confused and somewhat upset by this. Since there are 5 of us, I feel this is a bit selfish of her and I’m not sure that I want to sign. Plus, I don’t know what my parents wishes would have been to have just my one sister buried with them or, for that fact, to have any one else buried with them at all. Just looking for a second opinion and expertise in this area as I’m not sure what I should be asking for in terms of a cemetery contract, legal document, etc. to properly make a decision on whether or not I should approve this.

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Urn on top of parents grave

jennifer — Sun, 24 May 2020 22:55:56 +0000

Can an urn be buried on top of a gravesite? I am single and would like to be buried in the same grave as my parents. It is a catholic cemetary so not sure of the process and I want to plan now. Thanks

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2nd Right of Interment

kobryan52 — Mon, 30 Mar 2020 21:00:29 +0000

When my mother passed away 30 years ago my father purchased a 2 person niche in the Memory Room at the cemetery. Now that my father’s health is deteriorating we are making arrangements for his cremation. I had contacted the Funeral home 2 years ago and they quoted me $895.00 for the open & closing of the niche plus a $125.00 processing fee. Today when I contacted them, they now have added a $3,500 2nd right of Interment fee. I think they are adding this fee because my father will be cremated at a different location which only charges $495.00 for the cremation. Due to his age, all of his friends and 2 brothers have all passed on and we will do our own Family get together at a later date. So I am wondering if this 2nd right of interment fee necessary.
Thank you
Kris

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Gravestone acknowledges son and daughter and grandsons but not sil or dil

batch127 — Mon, 25 Nov 2019 20:47:32 +0000

I was wondering do monument maker deliberately try to break up families or what. My father-in-law and mother-in-law had their gravestone placed in the local cemetery. On the front, they had their names and birth dates. on the back, it had the name of their son and daughter(my wife). And below that, the names of their 7 grandchildren(grandsons). Needless to say, I had no problem with the son and daughter being recognized. But putting the names of the grandchildren on the gravestone, I felt went over the line. Currently, I am finalizing a divorce due to some of the dysfunctionality of my wife’s family. But, I was wondering if this practice is common?

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Is there a burial vault and casket in one?

norm — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 17:51:35 +0000

is there a burial vault and casket in one?

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private family cemetery size and burial placements

chell7166 — Mon, 22 Jul 2019 15:13:15 +0000

we have a private family cemetery one acre in size how many plots fit in a cemetery this size? and currently we have several family grouped plot/squares we are have been told 2 different things as to how many plots are in each square, 5 caskets and 8 caskets per square which is correct? and does this change if the deceased is cremated and only a urn is buried?

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Can a deceased person have more than 1 burial plot?

malory — Tue, 09 Jul 2019 21:42:00 +0000

My father passed away in January 2019, and I’m his next of kin and I’m the one who has/had set up his burial services. He had no funeral plans made at the time of his passing. I knew my father wanted to be cremated, so I got him cremated. Since my dad was a veteran, the veteran cemetery is holding a place for him so I can bury his ashes when I’m ready to bury him. My aunt (his sister), is saying she will be purchasing a plot for my dad at a different cemetery. I question is can my deceased father have 2 different plots, one in a veteran cemetery and one not in a veteran cemetery? This is taking place in Iowa if that helps

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Can ashes be buried in the same grave?

ivye — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 16:12:59 +0000

Mom recently passed and per their request Moms ashes were placed in the earth where Dad’s were in their plot. My question is when I pass and I am cremated can my ashes be buried with them? There is no casket on the plot.

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