Funeralwise » All Posts https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/forum/ask-us/feed/ Mon, 05 Feb 2024 07:30:17 +0000 https://bbpress.org/?v=2.6.9 en-US https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/how-to-include-girlfriend-and-wife-in-obit-and-funeral-program/#post-18103 <![CDATA[Reply To: How To Include Girlfriend and Wife in Obit and Funeral Program?]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/how-to-include-girlfriend-and-wife-in-obit-and-funeral-program/#post-18103 Fri, 28 Jan 2022 18:52:45 +0000 Jennifer Lane You typically list relationships and children in order, so we suggest keeping it simple with something like:

He is survived by his wife, Suzy, and their son, Adam, and his longtime partner, Jane, and their son, Paul.

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/how-to-include-girlfriend-and-wife-in-obit-and-funeral-program/#post-18101 <![CDATA[How To Include Girlfriend and Wife in Obit and Funeral Program?]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/how-to-include-girlfriend-and-wife-in-obit-and-funeral-program/#post-18101 Fri, 28 Jan 2022 18:48:31 +0000 californialoving Hi! My friend’s boyfriend of 15-years passed away. He has a wife but they’d been separated for over 16 years. Because of this, the wife has allowed the girlfriend to plan the services (and I’m helping her).

Any ideas on how to acknowledge both relationships in the obit and funeral program? They both have one son with the deceased man.

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/headstone/#post-17878 <![CDATA[Reply To: Headstone]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/headstone/#post-17878 Mon, 08 Nov 2021 12:20:40 +0000 Jennifer Lane How incredibly kind of you to want to help the family of a man who clearly left a lasting impression on you in this way. The best path to get your question answered (and still try to remain anonymous) is to inquire at the cemetery where the gentleman is buried.

Most cemeteries require the property owner’s permission to place a marker on the grave, so the family will definitely need to be contacted for that reason, plus they should also be able to decide what style and text goes on the marker. Perhaps if you explain to the cemetery your intentions, they will hopefully be willing to a) give you an idea of the actual cost of a marker, foundation and installation costs for the various styles they will allow on the grave, and then b) contact the family to let them know an anonymous offer has been made to purchase a permanent memorial for their loved one’s grave, then handle it from there and simply send you the bill to pay.

We certainly wish you the best in this effort and hope the cemetery is willing to help you do this and remain anonymous, if possible.

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/headstone/#post-17876 <![CDATA[Headstone]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/headstone/#post-17876 Mon, 08 Nov 2021 12:01:56 +0000 greenandgray I have a question regarding a plot. A man who golfed with me a couple times passed died in a very unexpected and tragic accident about a year ago. I didn’t know him very well, and I’ve never met his family. I didn’t learn of his passing until a few days ago. However, he really made an impression on me. I feel so terrible for never connecting with him more. He really was a great guy. I went to the cemetery
a few days ago to visit his grave, but he doesn’t have a permanent marker. Just a framed temporary sign from the funeral home. I was surprised as he had passed almost a year ago. I called the funeral home he was in care of and asked about it; they told me that no stone marker had been ordered. The cemetery states that they can remove the temporary markers after a period of 180 days. And the lady at the funeral home said sometimes the frames get chewed up by the lawn mowers. The stone memorials are very expensive – almost $1,000 for a flush stone plus a $200 fee for placement, etc. I would be honored to pledge the cost of the memorial, placement, and fees for the family. I would like to know if, and how, I could do this respectfully. I would also like to remain anonymous.

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/2nd-rite-of-interment-estranged-children/#post-17291 <![CDATA[Reply To: 2nd Rite of Interment, Estranged Children]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/2nd-rite-of-interment-estranged-children/#post-17291 Tue, 18 May 2021 03:51:03 +0000 yousaybeoh Ah – yes, I failed to specify the next of kin are adults and this is all taking place in California. I also didn’t mention it can be assumed my uncle, who is in his mid 60’s, who has been without shelter for all of his adult life and who has become more and more difficult to track down, who will pass intestate, knows nothing of this plan.

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/2nd-rite-of-interment-estranged-children/#post-17282 <![CDATA[Reply To: 2nd Rite of Interment, Estranged Children]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/2nd-rite-of-interment-estranged-children/#post-17282 Sun, 16 May 2021 18:26:07 +0000 Jennifer Lane Regarding your question about the children of your uncle having a say in what happens to their father’s remains – it depends. Are these children adults? If so, quite often but not always the “order” of the next of kin would have the adult children of the deceased ahead of the siblings of the deceased.

However, this can vary by state, so we definitely recommend that you check for your state’s specific laws regarding legal next of kin. This would be the state where your uncle lives. Once you get clarity on that, then you are correct in speaking to the cemetery about their requirements for the 2nd Right of Interment.

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/2nd-rite-of-interment-estranged-children/#post-17279 <![CDATA[2nd Rite of Interment, Estranged Children]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/2nd-rite-of-interment-estranged-children/#post-17279 Sun, 16 May 2021 18:17:07 +0000 yousaybeoh Setup: I’m appreciative of the posts regarding the 2nd rite of interment, it has helped me understand the request I received from the surviving siblings of my deceased father and their plans to bury the ash remains of my Uncle with him. Yet after reading several posts none really fit my exact situation and that’s where I hope your guidance comes into play. I have no immediate objections to their request, however I can’t help but think of the children of my uncle whom until only recently we’re estranged.

Question: Do the children of my uncle have any say in what happens to their fathers remains when that time comes? As you can tell, the siblings of my Uncle have already started planning and to my knowledge have not considered the wishes of their niece and nephew. I’m looking to avoid any last minute conflicts and I’m just looking for some heads up on what to expect and plan appropriately.

I do plan on contacting the cemetery for their 2nd rite rules but before I reach out to the children of my uncle I want to better understand what their legal rights if any apply here.
Thank you!
E. Garcia

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/identifying-step-children/#post-16642 <![CDATA[Reply To: Identifying step children]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/identifying-step-children/#post-16642 Sun, 07 Mar 2021 12:20:29 +0000 cphaco you list like normal!!

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/travel-plan-that-is-not-strict-about-residency/#post-16541 <![CDATA[Reply To: Travel Plan that is not strict about residency]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/travel-plan-that-is-not-strict-about-residency/#post-16541 Tue, 23 Feb 2021 20:02:09 +0000 Jennifer Lane Hi David,

You are correct in that the Travel Plan on our site would not be the best option here, as it is designed for frequent travelers. We aren’t aware of another plan that would that would work for your situation, but we do recommend that you contact the funeral home in Mississippi to see what travel arrangements they can offer for your needs.

]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/travel-plan-that-is-not-strict-about-residency/#post-16539 <![CDATA[Travel Plan that is not strict about residency]]> https://www.funeralwise.com/forums/topic/travel-plan-that-is-not-strict-about-residency/#post-16539 Tue, 23 Feb 2021 19:48:31 +0000 davidm Does anybody know of a travel plan that will transport a body back home regardless of how long the person might live away from home?

I saw the travel plan enrollment on this website and thought it looked like just what I needed for my mom. However, then I read the part of the plan that says regardless of what your legal residence is in the paper work, if the person lives in a place for 180 days, even a nursing home, that will be considered the residence. My mom lives in Mississippi and has a burial plot next to her late husband in Pascagoula, Mississippi. Family lives in that area too, but one family member, my sister, lives in California and is a medical doctor. My mom has been staying with her because she has some health issues that my sister helps her with. So this plan will likely not work for her. If she lives another 180 days while staying with my sister, and then passes on, the plan will treat California as her legal residence. So who knows of a plan that will not be so strict about legal residence when the time comes? My mom just wants to take care of this before she dies. She already has taken care of all other funeral arrangements in her home town in Mississippi.

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